Lovemionline

During the winter of 2006, I learned that in a relatively short amount of time love can turn as ugly as it once was beautiful.  And who better to teach me this lesson than my ex-boyfriend/child’s father whose love for me had turned so rancid, he uttered the “f” word: family court.  Ok, ok – technically that’s two words, however, the emotional effect is similar to the more popular four-letter word.  

I wish I could say that he had a valid reason to commit such a serious act, but, alas, this was nothing more than a grown man throwing a tantrum.   He was (and continues to be) a broken, silly-bitch of a person and because I was moving on just fine, he needed to upset my new harmonized universe the only way an insecure, wayward person could: by trying to take my son.

I lack the appropriate words to describe the fear and anxiety I felt when I was served with those court documents.  My heart skipped several beats and I was positive I was going to pass out.  Fear and anxiety gave way to an anger so intense I could’ve levitated.  I probably did!  My ex and I didn’t like each other much, but I really didn’t think he’d go the bitch route.  I was genuinely shocked and hurt.  

In retrospect, I really shouldn’t have been surprised.  I should’ve realized when I broke up with him that maturity would never become him.  I’m realizing now that, like a bad case of herpes, this man is just going to flare up at inopportune times and he’s going to be annoying and hard to get rid of.

In any event, I found myself standing in my living room reading his petition.  With my “mama bear” instincts activated, I thought to myself:

This is insane!  

This is unreal!  

This...is...war!

So much for love.

 

Nydia Mata is a 31 year old single mother to a 5 year old little burst of sunshine.  She believes that life after baby doesn’t always mean resigning yourself to your worst case scenario.  Easily flustered, she struggles to find a balance between parenting, finding love and growing up.  She fails miserably almost every time, making for some thoroughly entertaining situaciones.